A large number of parrot owners don’t realize parrot training involves a lot more than just teaching your bird some tricks or to say a few words. If you acquire a very young bird, the only thing it knows is what its instincts tell it to do or what a breeder or previous owner in the case of an older bird, might have taught it. You have the sole responsibility of training it and teaching it what it needs to know to get along happily with its new human companions. In the case of an older bird it may have to “unlearn” some bad habits if it has some behavior problems. All of this is training and it will involve some work. Your job is to be a parent in many ways.
You can do the same. Notice the problems that threaten to overwhelm you. Or what already overwhelms you, such as your workload or a transition. Or the non-supportive people you have to work with. Now search for firm ground or boulders to hang on to.
The key term used in this article is Wisdom of Heart. It’s a new term to denote this kind of people and it’s an extension of the common term EI-emotional intelligence. We classify these people under this head.
You should also scrutinize your child’s environment for reasons he might be feeling anxious or fearful. Middle childhood is a time of venturing into the new worlds of neighborhood and school.. Help him by discussing new situations together and even role-playing (“I’ll be you, and you pretend to be an older kid on the playground”), so he can figure out how to respond when he’s challenged or uncomfortable.
Generally speaking, I found the men and women to be emotionally weak and lacking self confidence; especially if their parent or parents gave them all they needed and wanted even in their adult life. They were not taught to be considerate of others and did not understand what was wrong and how to fix the problem. They also often did not know how to manage their finances.
Play time with other children is very important for their social skills. Unfortunately, most parents are busy working Monday-Friday and don’t have time for play dates.
One type of firm ground is your core values. These are what you can hang on to when the river is washing away the ground from under your feet. Where is your firm bank where your roots go deep?
Shyness is a combination of innate personality, and insecurity. Your personality’s great. Insecurity isn’t. You get confidence by training, so get a coach. It’s not just for sports any more. They’ll put you through the drill and pretty soon you’ll be scoring like a star quarterback. Only where it really counts – your love life.